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DIGEST CONTENTS
- July, 2006
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see list of previous Digests, click here.)
*****ECUMENICAL GRAND ULTREYA
*****A MESSAGE FROM DEACON MITCH RENNIX
*****A MESSAGE FROM DEACON HERB KELSEY
*****MEMORIAL MASS FOR DEACON GEORGE MILLER
*****CHANGES IN SECRETARIAT
*****CURSILLO WEEKENDS - OCTOBER 2006
*****SCHOOL OF LEADERS
*****SPONSORING CANDIDATES
*****CURSILLO COMMUNICATIONS
*****CALENDAR - Stay informed on What's Up!
*****PRAYER REQUEST - Knee time for our friends!
*****AFRICAN NIGHTS FUNDRAISER
*****DISASTER RELIEF - SEVERAL WAYS TO HELP
***** 7 MORE BOB MURPHY MEMORIES
*****UNSUBSCRIBE
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ECUMENICAL GRAND ULTREYA
The Grand Ultreya this year will be a joint effort by the Catholic,
Episcopal and Methodist Cursillo movements of San Diego. Come and fellowship
with your Cursillo brothers and sisters of three faith traditions. Details
as follows....
Where: Our Lady of Grace Catholic Church located at 2766 Navajo Road in El
Cajon.
When: 2:00 pm - 5:00 pm on Sunday September 17, 2006.
More details to follow in future publications. Mark this date in your
calendars today!
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A MESSAGE FROM DEACON MITCH RENNIX
Dear Brothers and Sisters in Christ,
I am in need of your help.
There has been a lot of talk and fond memories recently about our dear
friend Bob Murphy. I have found myself on many occasions listening to a
story about Bob that I had never heard before…what he did….where he
went…..how he made a difference. I can honestly say, at no time was I
surprised to hear the wonderful things that he did, and how he impacted
lives…..that was just the Bob we all knew. So it came as no surprise, when
Deacon Ken Finn said, “I think Bob qualifies as a modern day Saint”. If it
were up to me I would make it happen today and place his feast day before
Saint Patrick's. But for some reason, the Pope and the College of Bishops
think they must get involved. Oh well!
So here is where we need your help. We need PROOF of Bob's miraculous life.
As many times as I have been with Bob and witnessed his love, I cannot
recall an actual miracle attributed to Bob (through Bob). I'm not saying
they did not happen….I'm saying that I don't recall such things. Perhaps
some of you do. Can you write about the details in support of Bob's case?
That is what is needed at this time. Please send them to me at
mrennix@cox.net . I will compile the evidence and push it in the right
direction if it is wise to do so.
I appreciate your efforts. May the God who brought us Bob Murphy, also bring
you and your family peace.
Deacon Mitch
Editor's Note: Don't miss the 7 latest Bob Murphy memories sent in recently
in the last section of this digest.
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A MESSAGE FROM DEACON HERB KELSEY
There will be a memorial Mass at 10:00 AM, Saturday, July 15, 2006, for Fr.
Louis Levesque, CJM, former Spiritual Director of the San Diego Cursillo
Movement. Fr. Louis succumbed to Lou Gehrig's Disease (ALS) on Monday, June
12. Eudist Fathers William Rowland, CJM and Jim Burson, CJM will
concelebrate. There will be a small luncheon reception following the Mass.
All are welcome to come and remember Fr. Louis.
Deacon Herb Kelsey
In God We Trust
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MEMORIAL MASS FOR DEACON GEORGE MILLER
Deacon George Miller was well known throughout the Cursillo Community years
ago due to his commitments. He has recently passed away in Florida and his
widow, Joanie, is coming to San Diego for his Memorial Mass to be held at St
James in Solana Beach on Saturday, July 1 st at 1100 AM. Long time
Cursillista
may want to attend and pay their respects. Chuck Schwaebe.
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CHANGES IN SECRETARIAT
NEW ADDITION: Deacon Charlie Frice will serve as Assistant Spiritual
Director with Deacon Mitch Rennix, Deacon Charlie will be a voting member of
the Secretariat and will focus his efforts on south and eastern county.
Thank you Charlie for say yes to serving the San Diego Cursillo community in
this important role.
OPENING ON SECRETARIAT: The San Diego Cursillo Secretariat has an opening in
the treasurer position. Jerry Wills will finish his three year term in
August of this year. Jerry has been a great addition to the Secretariat and
will be sorely missed. Please consider joining us in this position and
helping Secretariat in directing our San Diego movement. To get more info on
the treasurer job
description and time commitment please contact Jerry at 858-518-3529 or
760-747-7939, or email Ed Psota, Lay Director at bearmkr91@aol.com. Thank
you for your consideration.
San Diego Cursillo Secretariat
Lay Director: Ed (Bear) Psota, bearmkr91@aol.com
Spiritual advisor: Dn. Mitch Rennix, mrennix@cox.net
Director Leader School: Jim Koed, jpkoed@cox.net
Secretary: John Gabbard, jgabbard@cox.net
Treasurer: Jerry Wills, gwills@cox.net
Pre Cursillo: Danielle and Pat McCay, precursillosd@gmail.com
Cursillo: Paul & Betty Vogel, paul.vogel@sbcglobal.net
Post Cursillo: John Sawaya, jsawaya@cox.net
Communications: Paul Greer, paul@hipstars.com
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CURSILLO WEEKENDS - OCTOBER 2006
Oct 12-15, 2006: Men's Cursillo Weekend 244 - Rector: Tim O'Shea,
toshea@kodak.com or 760-753-2472: Theme: To Be Announced
Oct 19-22, 2006: Women's Cursillo Weekend 245 - Rectora: Claudia Penczar,
ppenczar@san.rr.com or 619-279-5237 Theme: To Be Announced
Team Schools for the Men's and Women's October Weekends will begin August
4th at St. Therese, 7:00 PM sharp . . .
Please keep Tim and Claudia in your prayers as prepare to begin Team School.
Don't forget to come and show your support at Clausura on Sunday October 15
(men) and October 22 (women) at 5:00 pm and the Welcoming Ultreya on
November 4th. See calendar below for more details.
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SCHOOL OF LEADERS
For July information on the School of Leaders contact Jim Koed at
760-740-9324 or jpkoed@cox.net
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SPONSORING CANDIDATES - Pure Gift
The October 2006 weekends will be here before you know it!
When's the last time you sponsored someone to a Cursillo retreat? There's no
better gift to give someone then to sponsor them on a Cursillo weekend. For
applications contact the Pre-Cursillo Chairpersons: Patrick and Danielle
McCay. They can be contacted at precursillosd@gmail.com or 858-272-7286. Be
sure to use the current applications and send them to Pre-Cursillo
Committee, 2025 Chalcedony St., San Diego, CA 92109
PALANCA: Palanca is the driving force of Cursillo. Please keep the team
coordinators, teams and candidates in your prayers over the coming months.
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CURSILLO COMMUNICATIONS
For up to date San Diego Cursillo information please utilize our website at
http://www.rc.net/sandiego/cursillo/
YOUR STORY?
Your story may be what someone needs to hear...
Cursillo Communications is looking for Cursillistas with great stories for
future publications of the Gazette. Beginning with the next issue Erika
Johnson, our roving reporter will conduct interviews with potential
Cursillistas regarding their personal stories on Piety, Study and Action.
Erika will then write the articles up after these interviews are conducted
and the stories will be published in future Gazettes. Please contact Paul
Greer at paul@hipstars.com if you are interested in your story being shared
within our wonderful community.
We are gathering information on our brothers and sisters from the Cursillo
Community who have passed away in 2005 or 2006. We want to honor their
memories by printing their names in future Gazettes. Please send the names
of our brothers and sisters who have gone home to the Lord to Paul Greer,
Cursillo Communications Chair at paul@hipstars.com
Paul Greer
Cursillo Communications Chair
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CURSILLO SAN DIEGO CALENDAR 2006
* Oct 12-15, 2006: Men's Cursillo Weekend 244 - Rector: Tim O'Shea,
toshea@kodak.com
* Oct 19-22, 2006: Women's Cursillo Weekend 245 - Rectora: Claudia
Penczar, ppenczar@san.rr.com
* Nov 4, 2006: Welcoming Ultreya for weekends 244 & 245
CALENDAR 2007
* April 19-22, 2007: Men's Cursillo Weekend 246 - Rector (to be
announced)
* April 26-29, 2007: Women's Cursillo Weekend 247 - Rectora (to be
announced)
* Oct 11-14, 2007: Men's Cursillo Weekend 248 - Rector (to be announced)
* Oct 18-21, 2007: Women's Cursillo Weekend 249 - Rectora (to be
announced)
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PRAYER REQUEST
Please take a few minutes to pray for the following........
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Note: If one of the following prayer requests is from you, and the
information can be updated, please email me at
cursillocommunications@arc-socal.com with the updates. Thanks. John Sawaya
*****
Please pray for a complete recover for Joan Brouillette who had hip surgery
on June 9th.
John Sawaya
Sent 6-27-2006
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UPDATE
I wanted to provide an update on my brother Anthony Paul Ghio. In a previous
request I indicated the doctors were doing their best to find a combination
of medications to help Anthony live a peaceful life. He suffers from Autism
and is developmentally disabled so he cannot tell the doctors this isn't
working or this is working. Anthony continues to struggle and the doctors
continue to search for answers. I am asking our Cursillo brothers and
sisters to continue to pray for Anthony and his doctors.
Thank You and God Bless You
Rick Ghio
Sent 6-12-2006
*****
UPDATE
Sheri Kidder's colon cancer surgery went well. However, the cancer has
already invaded her liver and 10 of the 14 lymph nodes tested. She begins
chemotherapy on 6/13 and wishes to thank all of you for your prayers.
Please keep up the good work! DeColores.
Sheri Kidder
Sent 6-7-2006
*****
Please pray for Frank Sandoval, cousin of Ray Sandoval, who was just
diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, so it's not looking good. They've given
him 6 months to live, but we who believe in the power of prayer know that
God can do anything...if it is His will. Thus, we're asking for lots of
"healing" prayers for Frank who is only 54 yrs. old and has 2 grown
children.
Thanks,
Esther Kapelczak
Sent 6-27-2006
*****
Please keep my friend Kristen Marcozzi in your prayers. A 34 year old
mother of three young children who had a brain Aneurism on Wednesday. She is
recovering in the intensive care unit in the Bay Area. I pray for a healthy
and speedy recover and for her family at this time.
God Bless,
Corrie Samaniego
Sent 6-9-2006
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This is a prayer request from my wife for her mom's best friend and
family/friends.
Peace,
+anthony
Sent 6-6-2006
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Please pray for healing for Buddy Foley, father of our family acupuncturist.
He is 87 and he recently fell and broke both legs. He is eager to get back
to work as an independent salesman in Kentucky and surrounding states.
Bob House
Sent 6-6-2006
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My nephew (Miguel Howe) has rotated out of Iraq and is back home. Thank you
for the thoughts and prayers for him and all our service men and women in
harms way. He can be removed from the prayer list.
De Colores, Tom Sapien
Sent 6-2-2006
*****
6-8-06 report
MaryBeth is still in the hospital with the severe leg infection-cellulitis
and Lymphedema---the antibiotic has her on the edge of renal failure---and
the anti nausea med makes her sleep---sooooo-
Prayers, calls 1-619-528-5000 ----please don't just visit as she really
has no resistance to bugs---besides she falls asleep on ya----very poor
company---so calls are best right now
Questions? nanak598@yahoo.com
Katie Brown
Sent 6-8-2006
*****
Update Liam Hearne
A dear friend of ours gave us a beautiful acronym for LIAM. It came to her
after attending our annual Cystic Fibrosis fundraiser. Love Inspires All
Miracles. One thing that Bill and I have learned is that in all
circumstances, in all decisions, in all of life...LOVE is what matters most.
Wiffle Ball 2006 was clearly all about the miracle of love!!
Liam was on fire. His energy was contagious. His joy was explosive. To
those of you who were present - you know what we are talking about. It's
the kind of enthusiasm that moves mountains, that changes hearts, that
inspires miracles.
Today we met with Liam's special care team to discuss his medical condition
and to evaluate all of our options. Limited as they are and each one
carrying its own set of risks and benefits, we along with Liam's medical
team have decided that it is in Liam's best interest to officially be listed
with the Children's Hospital, Seattle transplant program and we will be
moving forward with Kaiser Member Services to gain approval to go out of our
health care plan. We will move forward with requesting that Liam officially
be listed for liver transplant in Seattle. We will be initiating contact
with Kaiser administration tomorrow and anticipate that the process will
take several months to complete. We are confident that we are moving in the
right direction, and ask for your continued prayers that God continues to
guide us through this journey.
If you or someone you know has contacts within the Kaiser administrative
system, we would be most grateful for your intervention on our behalf. We
will begin the process, but we are starting at the bottom through member
services. We need to climb through the process as efficiently as possible
as we are all in agreement that time is of the essence. Bill will be
contacting Dr. Reyes in Seattle tomorrow to ask for his assistance in
working backwards through the system, in an effort to expedite the process.
Please continue to pray for Liam. God has worked miracles through Liam, not
the least of which is his infectious love.
Thank you for your ongoing love, support and prayers. You, too, will remain
in our prayers!
Fondly,
Nancy & Bill
Sent 6-8-2006
*****
De Colores,
Matt Eastman (242) was in an accident last Wed. Jun 14, while riding his
bicycle home from the gym. He has been in the hospital, Scripps Memorial, La
Jolla, since that time. He has a bruised shoulder, a fractured rib, and also
a partially collapsed lung. He had surgery to put in a chest tube for his
lung and is recovering. His status is stable but he is uncertain at this
time when he will be released. They haven't been giving him much info at the
hospital. He is in good spirits, although a little frustrated from the care
he has received, but doing well. Please keep him in your prayers and stop by
if you get a chance. (room 416).
Your Brother in Christ, Daniel Howieson
Sent 6-19-2006
*****
Please pray for the special intention of a close friend of mine.
Thanks.
Love,
Jim House
Sent 6-19-2006
*****
Dear San Diego Cursillistas and old friends:
We really need your help. FINALLY, the Saginaw Diocese in Michigan (of
which I belong) is restarting Cursillo. The last weekend they had was 2002.
With our new Bishop's support, the Cursillo group is planning weekends for
Sept. and Oct. The Bishop has 8 seminarians who he is sponsoring on the
weekend.
However, counting me, there were only 9 of us at Leader's School. They have
over 1,000 registered Cursillistas in the Diocese…many who show up just for
the weekend, but aren't't living their 4th Day, or don't understand it.
I told the 8 members of Leader's School I was going to ask the San Diego
Cursillo to pray for us and do palanca to assist in our discouraged hearts
and to assist us in our prayers asking the H.S. to show us the way to
evangelize and to live our own 4th days. I have been privileged to be a
part of the S.D. Cursillo and watch it grow to what it is and I experienced
some of those growing pains in San Diego. That experience has prepared me
to be useful in this Diocese.
We have a plan of action to address this problem, BUT, I know it all starts
with prayer. And, I KNOW the S.D. Cursillistas have some very strong
prayers and definitely have God's ear. I told the 8 people at Leader's
School to “get ready” because I was going to ask for prayers and palanca
from S.D. and I have seen miracles result in S.D. through Cursillo and know
it's possible here. I also asked Bob Murphy for his prayers of intercession
in conjunction with the Communion of Saints. J
What do you say? Will you help? Please send/do Palanca for the present
Leader School Members and the Saginaw Diocese Cursillo movement. The
present Leaders in Leaders School are:
Larry Gayton, LoLo Gutierrez, Frank Vargas, Jesse Guzman, Lupe Vargas,
Yolanda Guiterrez, Donna, Theresa, Renee Wood
As always, thank you my friends in Christ…you have sustained me for so many
years and you continue to do so with your prayers! Love, Renee
Renee J. Wood
Sent 6-20-2006
*****
Ellen Flourie called me tonight and asked that the community pray for her
sister who broke her foot, her Mom who broke her femur and her brother who
hurt his knee. Thanks, Leah
Sent 6-21-2006
*****
Please keep Warren Gregg, the husband of my new boss, in your prayers as he
is battling heart problems.
Thanks,
Shawn Rossi
Sent 6-24-2006
*****
UPDATE on Sally Manolovitz (Gay-Anita's sister)
At the end of March Sally was having dizzy spells and bad headaches. A MRI
discovered tumors in her brain.
The doctors said that the tumors “spread” there from another source. The
source is the mystery. A chest scan was done and it showed a mass in the
right lung. A needle biopsy was done (results negative), a bronchoscopy and
colonoscopy were done (results negative).
Several weeks ago Sally had a PET scan. (It reveals “hot” areas as potential
cancer sites). Her scan showed a mass in her left thigh and her right lung.
Since she already had a biopsy of the lung mass, they got a biopsy of the
leg mass (results negative). So, they decided to try and extract the leg
mass. That way they could dissect the heck out of it and finally know the
source of her cancer.
The first scheduled surgery was cancelled because they could not see it or
feel it. (They needed to schedule a PET probe during the surgery so if they
could not see it with their eyes, the machine would help guide them).
Sunday Sally had a (of only two in the entire country) specialist that
performs this type of surgery with the PET scan. He said “If I can't find
it, nobody can.” But, this time the PET scan could not find a mass. The
doctor made a 7-inch incision down the back of the leg. He searched every
muscle layer. For two hours he searched! But he did not find the
peanut-sized mass that was there several weeks back. Is it a miracle? Or
just another postponement in getting her chemotherapy treatments started?
On Mondays and Wednesdays, the specialists at the cancer center meet and
discuss the patients. Please pray for their meeting.
Also, Sally is going to be sore after that invasive surgery. Please pray for
her speedy recovery.
Michael Morck
Sent 6-14-2006
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BATTLING CANCER:
Paula Scull 5-22-2006 * Rosemary Crivello 4-24-2006 * Valerie Farris
4-16-2006 * Tom Bigler 4-10-2006 * Marcia 4-7-2006 * Jack Kelly
3-28-2006 * Jim Kilcoyne 3-24-2006 * Sally Manolovitz 3-24-2006 *
Margie Piatkiewicz 3-23-2006 * Sheri D. Kidder 3-22-2006 * Irma Espinola
3-21-2006 * Cecilia (Joe Vina's niece) 3-10-2006 * Maria Brown 2-9-2006
* Brian Sperry 2-9-2006 * Bonnie Basener 2-9-2006 * Liz Schwartz
2-2-2006 * Julie Schultis 2-2-2006 * Friend of Yesmin Saide 1-30-2006 *
John Kammerer 1-30-2006 * Barbara Conrad 1-19-2006 * Dale Haggard
1-19-2006 * Ron Price 1-12-2006 * Cynthia Martinez 1-4-2006 * Mary Mac
Isaac 12-25-2005 * Kathy Brown 12-5-2005 * Jesse 11-21-2005 * Toni
Collins 11-9-2005 * Troy 11-4-2005 * Maureen Greer 11-3-2005 * Troy
Peckham 11-2-2005 * Fran Medaric 10-26-2005 * Nick Zihlman 10-16-2005 *
Lisa George * Roy Corr * Kelly O'Loughlin * Normand Duhamel * Joe
Deegan * Joan McBride * LaLita Green * Pat Burke's Brother *
Cecil Spinner * Betty Barnhart * Liz Ravenis
*****
LEUKEMIA:
Deacon Bob Fitzmorris * Roy Hubecki *
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KNEE PROBLEMS:
Laura Degitz 3-28-2006 * Gary Mac Isaac 2-27-2006 * Ari Abreu 2-20-2006
* Erika Toraya-Johnson 1-31-2006 * Ed Psota * Ingrid Russon * Marion
Adams * Frank Schmitz
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SERVING IN IRAQ
David Pierce 4-20-2006 * Charlie Johnson 1-11-2006 * Juan Moran 9-29-05
DECEASED
Brent Stevens 5-10-2006 * Beatrice Dunham 5-1-2006 * Bob Barth 4-30-2006
* Jim Ham 4-13-2006 * Gael Ralph 3-31-2006 * Steve Ulliano 3-29-2006 *
Margie Casias 3-25-2006 * Phil del Campo 3-21-2006 * Janet McFarland
3-18-2006 * Bill Beck 3-17-2006 * Hal Gardner 2-28-2006 * Richard Blum
2-28-2006 * John Pierce 2-21-2006 * Mary Paden 2-21-2006 * Rose Jordon
2-3-2006 * Rose Jordon 2-1-2006 * John (Jack) Gallagher 1-6-2006 * Ray
Jewell 1-6-2006
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* Anthony Paul Ghio who suffers from Autism 6-28-2006
* Andy Lock, heart problems 5-31-2006
* Bertha (Lita), Yolanda Chavez's Mother, to your prayer list. surgery
5-9-2006
* Mike Mansur, for continued healing of his heart condition 5-9-2006
* Sue Houze, continued recovery 5-24-2006
* Frannie LaRussa, battling Leukemia 4-11-2006
* Rick Diaz, career decisions 4-10-2006
* Edmund Kapelczak, Congestive Heart Failure 4-7-2006
* Paul Hedley's, parent's marriage 4-7-2006
* Steven Delaney, struggling in school and with behavior difficulties.
4-7-2006
* Jack Heslin, healing from brain surgery 3-29-2006
* Rowan, healing 3-29-2006
* Charlie Lutack, strength and healing for his heart 3-28-2006
* Scott Miller, brain surgery early April 3-27-2006
* Moira Allen, continued healing and improvement 3-25-2006
* Charlie Lutack, heart problems 3-24-2006
* Ron Piatkiewicz, progressive neurological 3-23-2006
* Doug Remsen's, radiation therapy 3-21-2006
* Kimberly Ansley Liver tumors 3-20-2006
* Tom McNeill, chronic fatigue 2-28-2006
* Joan Kearney, Afton, and Alex, land dispute 2-22-2006
* Nicole Diamond, hospitalized, needs prayers 2-21-2006
* Liam Hearne and family in your prayers as they continue to fight CF
2-3-2006
* Rose Sapien, suffering from the onset of dementia. 1-30-2006
* Bill Reinhardt, critical condition blood clot 1-30-2006
* Dorothy, congestive heart failure 1-12-2006
* Jack Clifford, kidney disease 1-11-2006
* Laura Degitz' sister who is fighting a bi-polar condition 1-1-2006
* Katelyn, a 5 month infant who is dying of an enzyme deficiency
12-23-2005
* Forgotten, brothers and sisters in prison 10-22-2005
* Fran Axelson, spinal problems 10-21-2005
* Dave Pierce, Parkinsons Disease
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AFRICAN NIGHTS FUNDRAISER
Join us for authentic African cuisine and music, a silent auction and live
entertainment at the “African Nights” event on September 9th, 2006 at 6:00
p.m. at the World Beat Center in Balboa Park, San Diego, California. 100%
of all event profits will be donated to charities in Malawi and Nigeria.
Tickets are $65.00 each.
To purchase tickets or learn more, visit the website at
http://www.stbrigid-sandiego.org/johnnyutah/mission2africa.html.
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DISASTER RELIEF - SEVERAL WAYS TO HELP
by Barry La Forgia
International Relief Teams is looking for skilled and semi-skilled
construction volunteers for one week service in Mississippi to help
repair and rebuild the homes of the poor and elderly in the aftermath of
Hurricane Katrina, beginning in March 06. For more information,
call Tamra at 619-284-7979.
Cash donations to support IRT's disaster relief efforts for the victims of
Hurricane Katrina can be sent to: International Relief Teams, 3547 Camino
del Rio South, Suite C, San Diego, CA 92108 or online at IRT's secure
website: www.irteams.org. International Relief Teams has earned a 4-star
rating (the highest level) from the Charity Navigator, America's largest
charity evaluator (www.charityNavigator.org).
Thanks so much, Barry
A. Barry La Forgia
Executive Director
International Relief Teams
3547 Camino Del Rio South, Suite C
San Diego, CA 92108
(619) 284-7979 (ph)
(619) 284-7938 (fax)
email: blaforgia@irteams.org
web: www.irteams.org
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MORE BOB MURPHY MEMORIES
Sent by Kathleen Connolly
I met Mr. Murphy when I was in 4th grade at Holy Trinity, where he became my
new music teacher. Mr. Murphy has influenced my life in more ways than I can
count, and while I was getting milk for my cereal this morning, I saw this
poem on our refrigerator, and it reminded me of Mr. Murphy.
To me, this poem describes Mr. Murphy:
The Final Analysis
People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered;
...Forgive them anyway!
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
...Be kind anyway!
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true
enemies;
...Succeed anyway!
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
...Be honest and frank anyway!
What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight;
...Build anyway!
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous;
...Be happy anyway!
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
...Do good anyway!
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;
...Give the world the best you've got anyway!
You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God;
It was never between you and them anyway.
*****
Sent by M. Lee Connolly
To the Murphy Family,
You must be profoundly moved to hear of the impact Bob had on the community.
We are all so very blessed to have shared his life, his grace, his
generosity and humble approach. Thank you for sharing your time with all of
us. Because Bob was so generous with his time for others, you must have paid
a price.
Bob was a gigantic talent, who included even the least in his attempts to
praise the Lord. When he invited me to join the choir for mass at Holy
Trinity he didn't even know whether or not I was tone deaf. You see, it
didn't matter to him. If you wanted to be a part of honoring the Lord, he
included you. He offered a prayer before each mass and often asked that our
voices would be more than music, and become a prayer to help move those who
heard it. He accomplished just that. He was equally effective with children
and adults. My children had the incredible benefit of having Bob as their
music teacher. While they were not among the group who performed "Mighty
Mighty God" at his funeral, they knew all of the words and hand motions to
that song which resonated through the church and moved us all. This is part
of his legacy. He touched our future, not just our past.
So music was my connection to Bob initially, but for all of us who shared
time with him, it quickly became more. When my mother, who is a lay nun,
began to lose her vision to a degenerative disease, our family decided to
voice record her many daily prayers which she read. (they were not your
standard Hail Mary and Our Father prayers). As part of this recording, my
mother requested that I record two songs for her. Much as I love to sing
with the choir, I do not enjoy singing alone. My initial response to the
request was, "oh no." My second response was, "I'm calling Bob". I knew he
would help me. Not only did he play and sing with me, but he arranged for
his future brother-in-law to professionally record the songs for my mom. She
says she cried every day for quite some time when she heard those
recordings. This was so like Bob to take a small request and "run with it."
As always, he made light of it, but it meant the world to my mother and to
me.
Bob truly lived his faith and he showed each one of us how to do the same.
When Bob died we were all shocked. Soon thereafter my thoughts shifted to,
"I don't know ANY lay person who was more prepared to go home to God than
Bob." He earned it far sooner than many of us will. Now it is up to us to
use the knowledge he shared to walk in the shoes that God wants us to walk
in. Bob would be so proud of us if we did. Our future has been touched.
"Bless us all from the top of our heads to the tip of our toes," he often
said and he really did.
We will miss him dearly.
M. Lee Connolly
*****
Sent by Dave Pierce
Rather than take a lot of words repeating what everyone else said, I just
want to say "ditto" because in the 15 or 20 years I knew Bob, he was always
singing and praising Our Lord.
One of the memories I have of Bob is going up with Dan Perwich and his
family and Bob Murphy for Christmas for several years to sing songs to
Cursillista John Carniglia, who suffered some brain damage after a heart
attack a decade ago. Bob's guitar and voice filled the entire nursing home
and lifted everyone's spirits. Now I reflect on how ironic it is that this
healthy, muscular athlete ends up going to the Lord before the permanently
disabled friend he sang for. God obviously needed Bob up there with Him.
In addition to the hundreds of times I heard Bob sing live, his album was
one of my favorite tapes, and I listened and loaned out the tape with songs
such as "MOMMY" that was particularly powerful.
Which brings up a question. The last time I talked to Bob, he was going to
get me the CD. Does anyone know where I can purchase several CD's so I can
share this saintly man's music with others?
Dave Pierce
858-722-9000
*****
Sent by Carl Smith
My memories of Bob go back many years. I worked on the weekend that Bob
made. Bob sang and shared so much on that weekend. Everyone there felt and
hoped that his passion and spirituality would be shared in the Cursillo
community. Fortunately I was chosen to work as rector for Cursillo 144. I
asked Bob if he'd like to be on my music team. He said yes, as he always
did. And became an integral part of the Cursillo community from that weekend
on.
During team school Bob was going through a real trying time. He was in a
court battle to gain custody of his son, Skylar. One night at team school,
Bob asked if he could share. He told us how on that very day Skylar's father
had completely backed away from the situation and Bob and his wife had
gained full custody. He felt the prayers of the team and so many others had
made that moment in his life possible.
On the weekend Bob wrote a song on the theme I had chosen, “The Road to
Emmaus.” He sang it at Clausura and I've never seen a group of Cursillistas
so taken by this young musician's passion and his song.
During the weekend he led us in the Our Father at the closing mass. I still
have that brief moment of the weekend embedded in my mind. Every time I hear
the Lord's prayer I can only think of Bob. Carl Smith
*****
Sent by Fr. Gil Gentile
Reprinted from Queen of Angels Council of the Knights of Columbus' “Knight
Writer” newsletter
On June 6 I went to a Rosary and on June 7 I went to a Mass of the
Resurrection at Holy Trinity Church in El Cajon for a man named Bob Murphy.
Bob was 51 years old when he died suddenly of a heart attack. His death sent
shock waves of grief through many different Catholic communities in San
Diego County in which Bob had served – Holy Trinity Church & school, St.
Pius X in Jamul, the Cursillo and Benedictus communities, the reverence for
life community, and just so many other intersecting circles of light, life
and love that Bob was part of.
There is absolutely no doubt in my mind & heart and in the minds & hearts of
so many, many others whose lives he touched, that Bob Murphy was an
extraordinary, holy man. He lived his life so fully as a child of God, as a
brother of Jesus, as a son of Mary, as a servant of the poor and suffering,
as a teacher and musician – as a witness to God's love, as an apostle sent
as a great blessing to the church of San Diego. He did all of this with
gentleness, humility, & faithfulness AND a beautiful smile.
In some ways Bob was shy, quiet and unassuming – seemingly quite ordinary –
but his great spirit also always shone through. The experience of being at
Bob's rosary and funeral Mass was at the same time both heartbreaking AND
heartwarming. At the end of Mass we sang a song called “Just Like You” in
which we are speaking to God saying, “I want to be holy, I want to be holy
just like you”. This was a song, a prayer, that I had heard Bob lead many
times at one or another of the Cursillo retreats. It struck me as we were
singing it at the funeral Mass that Bob WAS holy just like God and like
Jesus and like Mary and like the great saints of our Catholic tradition.
After Mass as we watched his casket being placed into the hearse I thought
how the way to be holy just like God was to be like this man whose life and
death we had just celebrated.
Bob was a wonderful, ordinary, extraordinary man who showed us all how to be
holy. He was truly blessed by God and we have been blessed to have him in
our midst – even for a short time. As disciples of Jesus traveling the often
rocky road of life, as Christian gentlemen and Knights of Columbus, as
people who dare to be holy and dare to say yes to God we so much need
guides, teachers, shining examples of God's presence and action in the
world. Thank you God for Bob Murphy and for all the holy people who show us
how to be holy “just like You” and may we honor them and give praise to You
through lives of service, love and faithfulness.
–Fr. Gil Gentile, SJ
*****
Reprinted from the San Diego Union Tribune
By Jack Williams
STAFF WRITER
June 13, 2006
The words of philosopher/theologian St. Augustine – “to sing is to pray
twice” – resonated mightily in the life of Bob Murphy.
His music was his ministry, a way of intimately sharing his faith – on
stage, on a CD or around a campfire at a Christian retreat.
“Bob was willing to forgo all the stuff the world likes – money, status,
possessions,” said retired Superior Court Judge Bob O'Neill, a longtime
friend. “None of it was important to him. He was more interested in the joy
he got from his music and the joy he gave.
“He was an inspiring guy without being flamboyant.”
Mr. Murphy, a singer, guitarist and songwriter, put together the Bob Murphy
Band in 1999 and recorded a CD, “Child of God.” Although the original group
dissolved over the years, various members united for performances, including
fundraisers for Christian causes.
“Bob considered his music a form of prayer-leading rather than performing,”
said Jim House, his roommate in Lakeside and a youth minister. “He figured
his voice was a gift from God, and he was happy to share it. There was no
ego involved.”
Mr. Murphy, a music leader and director of religious education at St. Pius X
Catholic Church in Jamul, suffered a heart attack June 1 at the home of a
friend. He was 51.
He was stricken while working out on an exercise bike and never regained
consciousness, House said.
A former college and high school athlete, Murphy had no history of heart
problems. “I never knew him to even go to a doctor,” House said.
The day before he died, Mr. Murphy took a homeless man to lunch after
attending a noon Mass at St. Joseph's Cathedral downtown. It typified his
generosity, friends said.
“Bob seemed to have a sixth sense in visiting people who were down and
lifting them up,” Dean Dwyer said. “He just knew when to show up – either to
play music or just being there to listen.”
Before his death, he had been providing care for a friend, Teresa Marcotte,
who is recovering from brain surgery. He also helped care for her children,
one of whom has cystic fibrosis, Dwyer said.
When word of Mr. Murphy's death reached Holy Trinity Catholic Church in El
Cajon, where he was a former youth group leader and music director, classes
were canceled, and the children attended Mass to pray for him, Dwyer said.
At Holy Trinity, Mr. Murphy had led music at the 5:30 p.m. Mass for the past
15 years.
Although most of his music in the contemporary praise and worship genre was
original, he became known for his stirring rendition of “The Centurion
Song.”
The song, expressing a change of heart by a Roman centurion on the way to
Christ's crucifixion, was included on Mr. Murphy's CD.
“His solo rendition of that song at a men's retreat was overpowering,”
O'Neill recalled. “Everybody who knew Bob could tell you a story of when he
caused them to see something in a new way by the way he performed and the
songs he wrote.”
Robert Anthony Murphy Jr. was born Feb. 23, 1955, in San Diego and grew up
in East County.
After graduating from El Cajon Valley High School, where he competed in
football, basketball and wrestling, Mr. Murphy attended College of the
Siskiyous and Christian Heritage College.
He gave his first solo performance as a musician at Holy Trinity when he was
12, his family said.
In June 1996, he was invited to sing at a Mass attended by Mother Teresa at
St. Jude's Shrine in Southcrest. He later formed the Bob Murphy Band, which
performed before its largest crowd at the East County Performing Arts
Center.
Survivors include his mother, Marie Therese Murphy of Clairemont; son,
Skylar Murphy; sisters, Mimi Davey, Colette Hazlet, Kathleen Murphy, Rose
Remillard and Tricia Long; and brothers, Ed, Jim, Joe and Dennis Murphy.
Services were June 7 at Holy Trinity Catholic Church in El Cajon. Donations
in Mr. Murphy's memory are suggested to Serving Hands International, 4607
Mission Gorge Place, San Diego, CA 92120.
*****
Reprinted from San Diego News Notes
He Loved Like No One Else
Friends and Family Remember Bob Murphy
BY JANET HOWARD
Bob Murphy, who many called San Diego's pro-life troubadour, died June 1,
2006 of a massive heart attack . He was 51 years old. Over 1,100 people
attended his Rosary at Holy Trinity parish in El Cajon on June 6th, and
1,200 attended the Funeral Mass the next day. His pastor, Father Brian
Corcoran told the congregation that "he was a great man, a gifted man."
Memorials continued on Saturday June 10th with another Mass at Saint Pius X
in Jamul, and at the Benedictus Men's meeting in North County.
Over the years, Murphy was the director of religious education at Saint Pius
X, a youth minister, a music teacher, and a dedicated pro-life activist. He
lent his talents to music ministry over the years, most recently at the
Sunday 5:30 p.m. Mass at Holy Trinity parish. He played at the 3rd Monday
Healing Mass for Spirit Ministries at Holy Spirit parish, at Cursillo
weekends, and Whispering Winds retreats. He volunteered at the annual
Steubenville teen retreat at San Diego State, and worked in prison ministry
with Deacon Ken Finn.
At the reception following Murphy's funeral, some of Bob's family and
friends offered their memories of his remarkable life. Mimi Davey, Murphy's
older sister said that all 11 of the Murphy kids were born in San Diego at
Mercy Hospital. The three oldest, Mimi, Ed, and Bob, graduated from El Cajon
Valley High School, then the family moved to Clairemont. Murphy attended the
College of the Siskiyous in the town of Weed in far northern California.
Mimi noted, "When Dad died in 1978, the family had trouble with the mortgage
and there was concern about keeping the house. So Bob quit school, moved
back to San Diego, and went to work to help with the mortgage so our younger
siblings could stay and graduate from Clairemont High School."
Murphy's mother Marie said that her son was a caregiver who "stepped up to
the plate after his Dad had his stroke. Bob's older brother Ed had gone into
the military, and Bob was the oldest boy in the house."
Mimi continued, "Bob went back to school eventually and finished his degree
in music at Christian Heritage College in El Cajon. As Father Brian Corcoran
mentioned at the Rosary, things were quite lively at the College with Bob
around. There was no way he was going to compromise his love for the Blessed
Mother. For the last three years, Bob spent two hours a day in Eucharistic
Adoration, and he'd been a daily Communicant for years."
Father Vincent Gajere, a Nigerian priest stationed at Saint Pius X, was
Murphy's friend and confessor. "I've known Bob Murphy since 2003," Father
Gajere says." What a remarkable person he was in so many ways. Bob had a
simple approach to life, and he was aware of his human weakness before God.
He deeply accepted and loved the Church's teachings."
Father Gajere related an anecdote about Murphy. "Once I asked Bob quite a
personal question: Why wouldn't he get an annulment to his failed marriage?
And I put this to him for two reasons. One, I saw the virtue of love deeply
in him, and I felt he should be able to share it with a partner in marriage.
Two, annulments are possible these days. Bob said to me, 'Father, I believe
in the indissolubility of Catholic marriage -- for better, for worse, for
richer, for poorer, and in sickness or in health.' Wow! This kind of smacked
me in the face, but truly I was happy and touched with his response."
Deacon Ken Finn, whom Murphy called his "spiritual father," said, "I want to
say up front that I think he's going to deserve serious consideration for
the process of sainthood. In the over twenty years that I've known the man,
I've never heard anyone say that they did not like him. I never in my life
saw anyone so open to the power of the Lord's word. Thirteen years ago, we
started Benedictus, a ministry to Catholic men to raise Catholic spiritual
leaders in our community. Bob became part of our ministry. Bob said
something way back then, that is as true today as it has ever been, 'I don't
entertain people, I minister God's word to them through music."
Deacon Finn continued, "The last Mass that Mother Teresa had here in San
Diego, in June of 1996, we had wonderful music, and a giant crowd. One of
Mother Teresa's favorite songs was 'Ave Maria,' and I asked Bob, 'How'd you
like to sing 'Ave Maria' solo to Mother Teresa?' And typical of Bob Murphy
style, he said 'If the Lord wants me to do it, I can do it.' When Bob got up
to play, Mother raised her head and she had a soft smile."
Murphy's friend, Brian Caster, recalled the same event. "Over the years," he
said, "I've been fortunate to spend time with Mother Teresa. Many times
there would be priests and other speakers giving talks, and she never looked
up. Yet when that song began, Mother Teresa did look up. I believe she knew
that there was a saint in her view. He was a very intelligent guy, he could
have been very successful [in the world], but he chose a lay ministry to
serve others. I can relay, knowing both people like I did, that Bob was
another Mother Teresa, but on a local level. How he ever had the time, I
have no idea."
"We were at state prison," Deacon Finn recalled, "and Bob did a little
concert, and the usual catcalls started out, and within a few minutes Bob
had that whole place just in silence. They were completely taken up with his
love of the Lord. It was like the music cured the savage beast. And then one
time, we went to this one particular prison, Calipatria, a pretty high level
place. One of the guys came up to Bob, and says 'I used to be a guitar
player, and I got mixed up. I've got a long way to go before I get home, but
because of you today, I think I might go back to it.'"
Murphy was known for bringing his musical and spiritual talents pro-life to
pro-life work. From 1988-1989, Olga and Mike Miller participated in
Operation Rescue with him. The night before rescues, they would gather for
praise and worship in order to prepare spiritually for what they considered
to be a primarily spiritual battle. Olga explained that, "Bob lead the music
at the praise and worship night. And then we would have Mass early the
morning of the rescue. "When he was arrested, of course, the men and women
were separated. He was in the cell with Mike, my husband, and they prayed
and sang while they were in the cells."
Deacon Finn also commented that "when Bob was arrested, he got the others
together and started singing and praising the Lord, just like Cyrus in
prison. Instead of getting angry, they sang and praised the Lord for five or
six hours."
Murphy's sister Colette Hazlet remembered, "We would go and intend to be
prayer support, but then we would hear Bob's songs, "Rescue," or "Mommy" and
we had to do more. I wound up being arrested along with Bob one day. His
music inspired me to step forward."
Greg Witz, husband to Laura Witz, a member of the Bob Murphy Band,
commented, "When I first met Bob Murphy, it was kind of my spiritual
awakening. I met Bob at Saint Joseph's Cathedral. After Mass every day, we
would walk from the Cathedral back to our offices, about a fifteen-minute
walk. That's when Bob taught me how to bring Christ into everyday life. I
wish I had those days back, they were blessed."
Jim House, Murphy's roommate the past seven years, said, "I can tell you one
of the great things about living with Bob, was how much prayer we did here
in the house. We prayed over each other frequently. Prayer most
characterized our relationship.... Bob was definitely a super prayer
warrior, so sainthood is not out of the realm of possibility. Everything he
did reflected Christ."
Jim Murphy, Bob's brother, said he had been "a beacon of light that we all
followed. He's going to be sorely missed. Our family leaned on Bob as a
spiritual leader. We're going to carry on in the direction he pointed."
Another brother Ed said, "He was my little brother that I looked up to.
Murphy's brother Joe added, "My brother Bob loved like no one else."
Matt Belcher, a long-time friend who played in Murphy's band and is soon to
marry Bob's niece Katie Davey, said, "Bob was God's reflection to me. It's
how everyone's talking about him. I've always had the highest respect for
him. He was just a man of the highest order."
"My Dad," said Murphy's friend Jim Sawaya, "serves Mass every day at Saint
Joseph's Cathedral. He has gotten to know Bob over the years, as Bob was a
frequent visitor to the noon Mass at St Joe's. Wednesday May 31st, the day
before Bob died, he showed up at noon Mass and my Dad gave him Communion. My
Dad saw Bob leaving after Mass with a local homeless person on his way to
buy the guy lunch. He said the homeless guy had this huge smile on his face
as Bob escorted him to the deli. Mass, Communion, helping the homeless -- I
can only hope my last day on earth is similar to Bob's."
*****
Sent by Theresa Marcotte
Thank you for all the memories and comments! I am forever blessed with the
last six years spent with my best friend and the time he gave me and my
three children. Bob Murphy is the most holy, best man I have been blessed
to know. He gave me more than I could ever dream of in a lifetime. We are a
better family because of Bob as he drew us closer to Jesus, and I feel him
watching over us each minute even now.
Teresa Marcotte
*****
Sent by Cyndi Sapper
I have many moments and many reasons to be thankful and grateful that my
family and I were blessed to have Bob in our lives.
First are the ways he Blessed my husband, Steve. For awhile Bob would be at
our house often and we would always invite him to stay for dinner. With 3
kids, one being autistic, our home life is hardly ever "calm." As the kids
would be careening around the house we would say, "Sorry for the riot Bob."
He always joined the kids in their rioting!.
Bob loved unconditionally. No matter how many times I felt that I had
nothing to contribute to the BMB, he assured me I did. And Bob loved my
children unconditionally. He loved Brian the most when we were at our wits
end! He loved Katie and invited her to join him at 5:30 mass...my daughter
is so blessed. Whenever Katie would do something with her music bob would
hug her and say, "Katie, when I come back I want your life! Just keep God
in it for me!"
And Bob loves my son Stevenson. When Stevenson was 6 he transferred from a
private pre-school to public Kindergarten. All the hard work of Stevenson's
therapists seemed to be going downhill during the transition. I would pick
Stevenson up from school and be in tears because the little speech we had
worked to get was decreasing and the socialization that had been growing was
regressing. Then I would drive by Bob's house, stop and just had Stevenson
over to Bob. Bob would hug Stevenson, kiss him, pray over him and sing to
him. And Stevenson ALWAYS said "Hi" to Bob.
I will love Bob always. I wish God's plan allowed him to be with us longer.
But I know when God called, Bob did not say, "Now?" he said, "It's about
time!"
Bob will always be the epitome of Christ with Skin On.
*****
Sent by David Tepool
I first met Bob at a "Life in the Spirit" retreat hosted by Deacon Ken Finn.
Bob was serving as a volunteer and leading music. It was in the early 90's
and this was the first religious retreat I had been on in my life. Although
it was only a day retreat at the church in Coronado, I was a bit uneasy.
Fortunately, Bob was my small group leader and he quickly put me at ease
with his charisma and personality. I don't remember the details of our
conversations that day, but I do know I was moved by his love of God and the
music he played.
YES...his music...other people could play the same music, but it wouldn't be
the same, because you could see and hear the passion he had for offering his
songs up to God. In the years to come I would be in a few audiences
listening to Bob play, usually solo, and the music and words still run
through my head. He moved people, not to be a Bob Murphy music
groupee...but he moved them to know God more intimately and deeply.
Thanks Bob for all you gave me during my time in San Diego.
Sincerely,
David Tepool
*****
Sent by Heather Huffman
I worked with Bob at Holy Trinity for awhile several years ago. He was our
music teacher while I taught second grade for three years. He was a true
inspiration and so filled with the overwhelming love of God, Jesus, and the
Blessed Mother Mary! The kids and all the staff adored him and appreciated
his talents so very much! He played his beautiful music on my Cursillo
weekend in October when we had to evacuate due to the fires. I believe I
last saw him at Holy Trinity graduation last year where he sang a heartfelt
song that really touched me, as so many of his songs and music did. It was
particularly moving to me because the graduates were my first class that I
taught and it was so fabulous seeing how they grew up, but still sang with
Bob to make the celebration even more special! I am going to miss his ever
smiling face and wonderful melodies so much! I was so in awe of all the
people that were actually able to attend a
daytime funeral. The service was so special and an obvious sign that he was
so dearly loved by so many! God truly blessed us by having such an
incredibly faith filled man in our lives! I will keep his family and friends
in my prayers!
Thank you for all the encouragement and love Bob! You will be missed more
than you know!
Sincerely,
Heather Huffman
*****
Sent by Joe Robilotta
Today ,ten days later ,I'm still not sure how I'm supposed to act knowing
that someone like Bob left this earth having done so much to help all those
he meet in one way or another. Am I to do an one eighty and wipe my tears
and be more like Bob, not that I've lived a wrong life , but I think I need
to live a more fulfilled life . Seeing Mitch Rennix at the services, is just
another example of what I think my life should be . Filled with more loving
my fellow person. I've got a long way to go. I've known Bob for over twenty
years threw my wife Carol's (Connoly) family , and was lucky to have him
sing at our wedding. It was amazing to say the least , then being part of
Cursillo ,whenever I got the chance to work team school, there he was again
doing what he dose best , singing and being a friend to anyone who needs
one. I'm left with the same hollow feeling I had when my Father left this
earth to be with God, I don't know what to believe. Thanks for listening ,
Bob we will miss you ,but we will see you soon. God Bless, Joe Robilotta
*****
Sent by Harold Bell
On one of the Cursillo weekends a deacon shared a talk with us simply called
"The Dash". He went on to explain how on everyone's gravestone when we pass
on there are always three basic things, sometimes some other sayings, but
always the basic three: the person's name, the date of their birth and the
date of their death. Inevitably we miss the most important part of all –
the dash mark separating birth from death. Ironically that is not only the
most important part, but actually is the only part that really counts. In
the overall picture of our salvation it doesn't't matter when we lived or
when we died. Of course it matters to the family, all their friends and
loved ones, because it is such a great loss. In Bob Murphy's case his loss
and how badly he will be missed is simply indescribable. But ah, the dash:
It's not just about when we lived or how long we lived – it is simply about
“how” we lived. The dash is God's infinite love and mercy, the endless
graces he gives us and the only part that truly matters is what we do with
these precious gifts. As Father Brian stated so dramatically and
beautifully, as Catholics we just don't believe in the Resurrection, we
know! We know as children of God we will be brought home to the Father. All
we have to do is live the “dash”, accept his gift (however undeserving we
may be), share these gifts with others, and walk humbly with the Lord. I
have never met anyone personally in my life who lived his “dash” as
persistently, as fervently or with as much love as Bob did. He has been a
great example and inspiration to me since I met him 15 years ago through
Cursillo. After experiencing Bob's rosary and funeral, and seeing firsthand
the tremendous extent Bob touched people's lives was unbelievably
inspirational. I also know for every person present there were hundreds
more that weren't't able to be there, but have been touched just as we were
by Bob's endless giving. I think of the “dash” periodically, but after the
experience of this last few days I will never let another day go by in my
life without remembering the meaning of the “dash” in my prayers. Thank
you, Lord, for giving us Bob Murphy to share his love with us.
Harold Bell hrbell1@cox.net
*****
Sent by Steve Gauvin
When I think of Bob, I think of his music and how "He Gave All He had to
Jesus" - and how all that he gave came back and touched us all in so many
special ways. His music always made my singing sound better, or maybe it
was just louder not better. Anyway, I always recall how the hills were
alive with music and men signing and you just couldn't help but sing when he
played - it was infectious.
I was blessed to work a number of Cursillos with Bob and I always remember
asking him for special songs that had deep roots for me during my college
days. I recall asking him to sing "Path of Life" when I was doing a Rollo.
He called me a number of times to tell me he tried and just couldn't find
it. He asked if there was another song I could recommend he sing? I
suggested "On Eagle's Wings" was a great one as that always brought tears of
joy to me. I still recall his smiling face when I came into the kitchen and
the cookistas started singing "Path of Life," when all along I thought "On
Eagles Wings" was coming.... I hadn't heard that song for nearly 20 years
and new tears of joy were found once again. He and the Cookistas sang like
angels.
When I heard of Bob's death I looked for days for a file that had my
favorite Bob Murphy song in it, one he sang for me in the Rollo room before
the last Rollo I shared. This was a solo and when I walked into the room
and stood at the podium, Bob began to sing. It was such a beautiful song,
my heart was just filled with joy, which eventually turned to tears and I
had to take a moment to catch my breath as it was taken away from me. You
know what I am talking about. It is my last and clearest memory of Bob on
the mountain. I had placed the file, which included my Rollo and a copy of
the words to his song, somewhere for safe keeping, but I couldn't find it
anywhere. I looked for days and I finally resolved myself to the fact that I
wouldn't find it... The song played repeatedly in my head and I prayed for
help to find it. This morning, after a shower - still dripping wet, I walked
straight over to a pile I didn't even know existed and there it was sitting
right on top. I came downstairs still wet and wrapped in a towel, with
tears of joy in my eyes, and shared it with my wife. She started reading
the song and soon her eyes filled with tears of joy as well. Then she began
to read my Rollo and said, "Did you know you talk about Bob in your Rollo?"
She showed me what I'd written regarding Formation and, "how this special
musician guided by the Lord's hand was a beautiful example of the Lord's
Music working in his Formation." Here are a few of the lyrics from his
song, which I can remember him singing so clearly: "He Gave All"
I will give all I am,
I'll give everything to Jesus,
And no, it may not be that much,
Still I'll give all I've got to give.
I will give all I am,
I'll give my heart and soul to Jesus,
He'll make it more than enough, to save my weary soul.
Such a beautiful song from a beautiful gift. Bob truly "Gave all he had to
Jesus" everyday of his life and we are better men and women because of him
in our lives. His songs and smile will remain forever engraved in my heart
and I, like you, am a better person for knowing Bob Murphy.
*****
Sent by Lou Schwartz
Bob Murphy was the closest example of a living, breathing, down-to-earth
saint that I will ever have hugged in my life in San Diego. What more is
there to say about him? I think God called him home, because he had done it
all!
Here is something, written by Ralph Waldo Emerson, titled:
"Life Success"
"To laugh often and much;
To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children;
To earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false
friends;
To appreciate beauty and find the best in others;
To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch,
or a redeemed social condition;
To know even one life has breathed easier, because you have lived;
This is to have succeeded".
Bob Murphy's Life was a "Success"!
Lou Schwartz
*****
Sent by Michael May
I met Bob on my Cursillo weekend, Bob gave the talk on Evangelization and
during that talk I came to fully understand my purpose in life. I was so
blessed to get to know Bob even more as we continued to run into him as Bob
was so committed to his faith but most of all God's service. Bob was true
faith in action to me and without a doubt a modern day saint. Bob's impact
and example will remain with me forever. My last exchange with Bob was at
Benedictus where as usual He was doing the music and then was off to a full
day of activities (two more gigs and then some prep work for Steubenville)
and I said Bob “do you ever get a weekend ‘off' “Bob (always quick with a
response) smiled and said “I must be about my fathers affairs”. Bob lived
this. I honestly believe whenever I want to ‘be with Bob' again this is all
I will have to do, because that is where his spirit was and always will be.
Blessings,
M. May.
*****
Sent by Shawn Rossi
"A trained monkey could do this" is what I remembered Bob saying numerous
times during his weekend as Rector for Cursillo #222. Now I feel even more
blessed to have been a candidate that weekend. Bob kept saying that to shun
off praise for his great leadership, and instead he kept deflecting the
credit to his Subs, staff, the other workers, and most importantly-- Christ.
I remember seeing Bob so many times over the past 5 years being so genuinely
humble, putting his head down, and smiling off any praiseworthy words
towards him. I remember seeing him work so hard at Steubenville San Diego
behind the scenes and at the masses, getting things ready for the Eucharist
at mass and helping things run smoother. I remember all the great songs and
going to a team mass one time in which his music made a disappointing day
turn brighter for me. Bob, God didn't need any trained monkeys- he needed a
good man and that's why He choose to bring you home. You will be missed-
thank you for being the Rector for weekend 222- we were all blessed to have
experienced it with you leading the way.
*****
Sent by Moira Noonan
I knew Bob from his music ministry for the Healing Masses for Fr. Jerry all
those years that he contributed. He added so much joy through his music at a
time when so many people were waiting for their healing. When my book
'Ransomed From Darkness' came out, he was one of the first to read it. He
called me right away and said my book had a really important message and he
wanted me to speak at his Parish. I agreed to and on the night I got down to
Jamul, I could not find Bob. He was in the kitchen in a cook's apron
preparing the Appreciation Dinner for his Parish. When I find him he says
Hi then proceeds to set all the tables. He has me sit with Fr. Scott and he
even serves us our dinner plates as well. While we all are eating dinner he
and his niece sing beautiful music for us and entertain us. Bob is still
wearing his cook's apron! Then he introduces me as the Speaker. By the end
of the evening he is still in his apron washing dishes. This man in the
apron was the Director of Religious Education with the true heart of a
servant. "The Leader must be like the servant".Luke22vs.24 Thank you Bob
for your witness as a humble servant of the Lord.
*****
Sent by Gary MacIsaac
BOB LIVED AROUND THE CORNER FROM ME. I GOT TO KNOW BOB WHEN WE WERE BOTH
EXPERIENCING THE SAM PAIN OF DIVORCE. I NICKNAMED BOB'S PORCH LIGHT THE
HOLY SPIRIT LIGHT. WHEN I SAW THE LIGHT ON I KNEW BOB WAS HOME. THERE WAS
TIMES WHEN ONE OF US WOULD BE IN TOUGH TIMES AND WE WOULD SHOW UP AT EACH
OTHER'S HOUSE. SOMETIMES WE HAD LENGTHY CONVERSATIONS OTHER TIMES WE HAD
ONLY A FEW WORDS TO SAY TO EACH OTHER. WE ALWAYS ENDED IN A HUG AND A
PRAYER. BOB TOLD ME THAT THE MOST IMPORTANT THING WE CAN DO FOR EACH OTHER
IS TO PRAY BUT SOMETIMES WE NEED A LITTLE MORE ,WE NEED TO SHOW UP. WE NEED
TO BE PHYSICALLY PRESENT WITH SOMEONE AND WE DO NOT HAVE TO SAY A LOT. BOB
CALLED THESE MOMENTS "JESUS IN THE FLESH MOMENTS" I NEVER FORGOT THOSE
WORDS. WE CAN ALL BE JESUS IN THE FLESH FOR ALL OF OUR BROTHER'S AND
SISTERS.
ONE FINAL NOTE. I TALKED ABOUT THE HOLY SPIRIT LIGHT ON BOB'S PORCH. I
ALWAYS THOUGHT IT WAS BOB'S WAY OF LETTING ME KNOW HE WAS HOME. I BROUGHT
THIS UP TO HIM AND HE HAD A BIG SMILE ON HIS FACE AS HE TOLD ME "GARY, THE
LIGHT IS ON ALL THE TIME, I NEVER SHUT IT OFF." WE BOTH HAD A GOOD LAUGH
OVER THAT.
BOB THANK YOU FOR MAKING ME A BETTER MAN BECAUSE I KNEW YOU. I NOW REALIZE
AS SITUATIONS COME UP I WILL ASK MYSELF WHAT WOULD BOB DO AND I WILL KNOW
WHAT TO DO. LOVE YOU BOB YOUR FRIEND IN CHRIST-GARY
*****
Sent by Pete Famolaro
I did not know Bob well, hardly on first name basis. I had watch him play
at a previous welcoming Ultreya and enjoyed more of his music throughout the
latest team school and Cursillo weekend....man could he play. The one
personal encounter I had is testament his generosity. Some of you may
recall the plight of Cammisa Beda, a nine year old girl who drowned last
spring. She remains severely handicap and the family is very limited
financially. I spoke to the men at team school to see if they could help.
In addition to asking for their prayers, I provided a flier with an address
to send checks if they had the means to help her family. I wasn't expecting
anything to happen that night but a few people had shoved money into my
hands. One of those people was Bob. He gave me a $100 bill. I thanked him
and we spoke for awhile. Among other things, he shared he did not make a
lot of money and that someone gave him that $100 earlier in the day. He
said he knew that money had a purpose and had found it in this families
needs. I remember driving home thinking about our conversation and how
naturally he put others before his own needs. That moved me deeply and
still does.
God Bless Bob Murphy.
*****
Sent by Don Bartalotta
I don't think my tears will ever stop. I feel so selfish to want him still
with us. I was blessed to worked with Bob for several years at AT&T. Before
I made my weekend in 1991 Bob asked me many times to join him at Noon mass
at St. Joseph's downtown, very few times I went. The Monday after my
Cursillo I could not wait to see Bob and ask him if I could sponsor him. I
said Bob you won't believe what I did this week end, it was the most
wonderful thing anyone could do. I made a Cursillo, and as I started to
tell him what it was, he calmly said "Don I was on the music team on the
previous weekend."
One other wonderful memory. Bob was flown out to Colorado by my groupies, to
go fishing with me as a retirement gift! While in a small boat in the
middle of the river Bob stood up and took off his shirt, I thought oh Lord
he is going to walk on water! I said Bob what are you doing? Again he
calmly said, "Don the anchor is stuck I need to free it" and in he went.
We are so blessed to have him as part of us. I truly Loved him and will
miss him.
God open your arms, you did good on this one, he is now yours. Good Bye
Bob.
DA Bartolotta (Don)
forgive
B&W B&B
*****
Sent by Chris Chavez
Bob Murphy was a hero to me. It is said that great athletes make others
around them better when they play. Bob did that with his music, even a
hacker like me felt like I was really doing good music whenever I had the
privilege of playing alongside Bob. I never heard an unkind word come out of
his mouth, he was truly an inspiration in the way he handled the down
periods in his life, he knew how to suffer fools gladly. Bob was one of a
kind and I will miss him for the rest of my life. Heaven's gain is our loss.
God called His child home, but too soon, too soon for me...Chris Chavez
*****
Sent by Jennifer (Close) Yakos
Bob Murphy and my dad Jack Close had a special friendship. For a few years
they would meet with one or two other Cursillistas every day for noon mass
at St. Joseph's Cathedral downtown. When my dad became ill with cancer, Bob
came over multiple times to the house to sing for him and my family. On the
day that my dad passed away, Bob showed up at the house and gave my dad a
beautiful gift - he played, sang, and prayed with us for several hours until
Jack took his last breath and met his Savior. I remember Bob saying that
something told him that morning to pick up his guitar and come over to our
house, not knowing what was waiting for him. I don't know if I ever really
thanked Bob enough for what he did that day, for being so open to the Lord,
so to follow His lead so unreservedly. We will miss you Bob, and rejoice in
your life and your beautiful spirit.
Jennifer (Close) Yakos
*****
Sent by Mike Daniels
There is a very under appreciated ministry in God's church that I call the
"Ministry of Just Showing Up". This ministry is best employed in times of
difficulty and challenge in a friend's life.
Bob Murphy taught me this ministry, and I am sure that many of you were
lucky enough to experience this ministry from him too.
When I was desperately sick from cancer. Worried, in pain, and self
conscious of looking sick (especially from a not so beautiful bald head) ...
Bob would often just "show up".
Sometimes he was alone, and sometimes he was accompanied by other angels who
knew this ministry like Jim Neville, or Brian Curry. Sometimes with large
groups where he provided the most beautiful music for a healing mass.
Bob had almost a sixth sense for when I was low and needed to be cheered up.
I now realize that it wasn't really a sixth sense,
it was because Bob was so tuned into the Holy Spirit that his spirit just
knew when you needed him.
He came ... he gave ... he wanted nothing but to cheer you up.
Bob more than anyone else represented the love of our Cursillo Community
which lifted me up when I was so ill.
Bob was all about unconditional love.
If you have ever wondered what it might be like to be in the presence of one
of the great saints of the church ... you have been. Bob Murphy embodied the
qualities they all possessed. Like Bob the great saints weren't perfect,
they were fully human. They struggled with temptation; they savored life's
joys. They showed their love of God by their great humanity to others.
Francis of Assisi, Catherine of Siena, Martin de Porres, Pope John XXIII,
Mother Teresa of Calcutta ... and now the newest great saint of the church
in heaven Bob Murphy.
What a privilege it has been to call such a great saint - my friend.
The best way to honor such a beloved and good friend, is to follow his
amazing example in the wonderful "Ministry of Just Showing Up". Like all the
great saints we can follow his example and be there for each other when
challenges come along, we can - love one another.
Love to all ... Mike Daniels
*****
Sent by Deacon Ken Finn
Dear Brothers,
It is with a heavy heart I write this after the shock and untimely death of
Bob Murphy, my beloved friend. Without hesitation I know all those who
believe in the Lord Jesus Christ and profess Him as Lord as Bob did are
reaping the reward of everlasting life. He is now looking into the eyes of
Jesus. He will be sorely missed by all of us at Benedictus. He sang of
Jesus while here with us and is now singing with the choir of angels the
praises of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.
As you know this Saturday, June 10th, 2006 is our next Benedictus meal.
Deacon Bob Mueller will be giving his testimony and we will dedicate the
meal to Bob Murphy and include a memorial service where you will be able to
share your memories of Bob.
Fr. Jim Rafferty will celebrate the Mass at 7AM. He worked closely with Bob
in Cursillo. I was in the hospital with pneumonia when I got the news and I
immediately rushed to scripture to find strength and meaning of his going
and my staying. God's ways are not our ways and our ways are not God's ways.
He knows what's best for all of us. I close with Psalm 150
Praise God in his holy sanctuary;
Give praise in the mighty dome of heaven,
Give praise for his mighty deeds
Praise him for his great majesty.
Give praise with blasts upon the horn,
Praise him with harp and lyre,
Give praise with tambourines and dance,
Praise him with flutes and strings.
Give praise with crashing cymbals,
Praise him with sounding cymbals.
Let everything that has breath
Give praise to the Lord!
Hallelujah!
Your brother in Christ,
Deacon Ken
Spiritual Director/Benedictus
*****
Sent by Ed (Bear) Psota
ABRAHAM, MARTIN AND JOHN
Today is June 2, 2006, and yesterday we lost both a brother and good friend,
Bob Murphy. We lost him in this world, in his physical presence, but we
should never lose him in our hearts.
My first response was “Say it isn't't so”, then I felt as if I had been
punched in the stomach, a sickness came over me. Finally I rejoiced for Bob,
for he was home. I could only think of the choir of angels singing as he
entered the place Our Father had prepared for him. I could see a vision of
Bob picking up his green guitar and playing with the choir and wondering
what the fuss was all about.
Bob was truly a servant of the Lord. He was highly visible because of his
musical talents, but Bob was so much more than music.
Bob always seemed to be there for you. No matter how busy or distracted,
when you called upon him he was there with joy. He would pray with you, for
you and over you. He would help you move or try to move mountains for you
through prayer. He was always an example of the word servant.
I am sure as I write there will be many tributes to Bob, but I feel the
greatest tribute to Bob is to be more like him. I call upon all of you to
reflect upon what it is that you can do to be a better servant. You know
there are many ways, i.e. prayer, time at adoration, feeding the homeless,
helping the needy, building for humanity, serving on our weekends to bring
others closer to God, sponsoring someone at RCIA, teaching our youth through
CCD, visiting the sick in nursing homes and hospitals. The list goes on and
on. But we need to serve as Bob did and that was with humility, for our
service is for God's glory and not ours. Bob gave everything from the heart.
I can remember on the occasions Bob, would play at Benedictus or a Cursillo
event and I would thank him for sharing his gift. He would always sheepishly
drop his head and say, “It was nothing, I was glad to do it.” There are so
many “Bobs” in our community, giving servants. We need to continue to do our
good works for the Lord and in remembrance of Bob Murphy.
We do not know the time and place. Who would have ever thought it would be
Bob's time so early in his life? It is time for us to heal, to heal those
wounds we might have with another. It is time to forgive and be whole with
the Lord.
I was reminded of the song “Abraham, Martin and John. The lyrics go
something like “Has anybody here seen my old friend Bobby? Can you tell me
where he's gone?” We know the place where he is gone. Let us rejoice and be
thankful for the gift of his life, his presence in our hearts and minds and
let us all continue to serve the Lord with humility, love and grace, as Bob
has done.
With Love,
Ed “Bear” Psota
Lay Director
*****
Sent by Jim Bello
BOB MURPHY, I HAVE A THOUSAND MEMORIES OF KNOWING MY DEAR FRIEND FOR 31
YEARS OF MY ADULT LIFE. WE WERE ROOMMATES AT COLLEGE OF THE SISKIYOUS, WHERE
I SPENT MANY NIGHTS AFTER FOOTBALL PRACTICES LISTENING TO BOB SING FOR
HOURS. SOMETIMES BOB WOULD BE ON THE PHONE TALKING TO HIS YOUNGER SIBLINGS
FAR AWAY IN SAN DIEGO, ALWAYS GIVING THEM ENCOURAGEMENT AND LOVE NO MATTER
WHICH ONE NEEDED IT. HE RANG UP LARGE PHONE BILLS, BUT IT WAS NOT THE COST,
BUT THE PURE LOVE THAT FLOWED FROM HIS VOICE TO THEIRS. AS TEARS RAN DOWN
HIS FACE, HE WOULD QUICKLY DRY THEM OFF, AND BEGAN TO SING LIKE HE WAS
TAKING THE WHOLE WORLD ON HIS SHOULDERS. ONLY MUSIC COULD EASE THE TRIALS OF
EVERY DAY
LIFE FOR BOB, AND HIS STRONG LOVE FOR THE LORD. BOB WAS THE MOST CONSIDERATE
PERSON THAT I EVER MET. HE ALWAYS PUT HIS FAMILY AND FRIENDS IN FRONT OF
HIMSELF. THAT IS VERY HARD TO DO IN OUR SOCIETY, BUT NOT FOR BOBBY BECAUSE
HE WALKED IN THE LORDS FOOT STEPS WHERE HE WENT, AND WHO EVER HE
ENCOUNTERED. I CAN HONESTLY SAY THAT BOB SERVED OUR LORDS KINGDOM WELL, HE
NEVER BRAGGED OR SLANDERED A SOUL. BUT YET HE WOULD GO ON IN LIFE AND SIT IN
ABORTION RALLIES TRYING TO BRING ATTENTION TO THE TERRIBLE ACTS OF MURDER
THAT WENT ON EVERY DAY. HE WAS ARRESTED A FEW TIMES BY OVER ZEALOUS LAW
ENFORCEMENT OFFICERS WHO WENT OUT OF THEIR WAY IN STRONGLY HAND CUFFING BOB,
ONCE CUTTING THE CIRCULATION OFF ON HIS WRISTS SO BAD THAT HIS HANDS TURN
BLUE. YES HE SUFFERED ENORMOUS PAIN AND AGONY, BUT HE FELT STRONGLY ABOUT
THE CAUSE SO HE GAVE IT A 100 PERCENT LIKE ALWAYS. MY FACE HAS SWOLLEN UP
WITH TEARS, SO I CAN NOT WRITE ANYMORE. BUT I WILL WRITE SOON THE WEIGHT OF
THE WORLD IS OFF YOUR STRONG SHOULDERS BOBBY MURPHY, OUR LORD EMBRACES YOU
AND TELLS YOU CLEARLY MY FAITHFUL SERVANT YOU HAVE DONE ALL I ASKED AND
MORE. WE GRIEVE FOR YOU BUT OUR GOAL IS TO MEET HIM IN HEAVEN, SO WE CAN
REALLY TELL HIM WE LOVE YOU MURPH.
*****
Sent by Kevin Dooley
During a Cursillo weekend, Mike Daniel's to be specific, my father and I
worked together in the kitchen. As one can expect, it can get pretty busy
preparing the meals as the attendees are in various talks and activities.
At some point on that Saturday, Bob and my father ended up talking. About
what, I will never know. On Saturday evening, Bob came up to me and said,
“Kevin, you don't know how good you have it, to have your father working the
weekend with you. There are a few men here who a “jealous” of you simply
because they never DID get to work a weekend with their fathers. Enjoy it.
Breath in God's gift to you!”
At that moment, I am sure that I did not think about it much. Jealous?
That left me with a big question; why would any of these men – older and
wiser and successful and happy – be jealous of me? And, I was distracted
when he said it. I was busy for crying out loud – I had to get the place
ready for the next meal! However, later that evening, I did take Bob's
words and moved them into action by simply going over to my father and
saying, “THANK YOU for coming Dad.” My father smiled, and with a tear in
his eye told me, “Kevin, you are so blessed to have this Cursillo community
at your age. I am so happy for you and I am very proud of you for being
involved in your Catholic faith.”
I do know that at some point I would have shared with my father my gratitude
for making the trip from Arizona to Julian. I also know that telling my
father, “thanks” would not have had the same meaning if it were not for Bob'
s words. Bob did what we all need to be reminded (sadly) of; To be thankful
for family, to be thankful for an awesome Christian Community, and to be
reminded that just when we don't think we don't have the time…………we really
do.
*****
Sent by Jim Server
I did not know Bob Murphy well, but I will never forget the day that he sung
his song "Mommy" right after we had celebrated an outdoor mass on my
Cursillo weekend. It was a beautiful October, Saturday morning and our group
had just prayed over Mike Daniels and Larry Seaman, when Bob O'Neil (rector
for 218) asked Bob if he would sing this song. Bob grabbed a guitar and
began singing this song that brought a stream of tears from every eye. What
impressed me most about Bob was not his obvious God given talent or his
strong voice, it was his passion and emotion with which he sang. The song
struck a chord with us all, and it was a defining moment for our weekend.
I thank God for our brother Bob.
James Server
#218
*****
Sent by Herb Kelsey
When my first wife, Angie, was dying of cancer, Bob came to our home one
afternoon and sang to her for well over an hour, praying over her with his
wonderful music. I know it brought both of us closer to Christ in those
trying last moments of her life.
Bringing people closer to his beloved Jesus was what Bob Murphy was all
about.
Herb Kelsey
In God We Trust
*****
Sent by Tim Houghtby
I met Bob at the El Cajon Boy's Club when I was 9 years old. Even though he
was a year older than me, he was already a leader and role model. He always
had his hand out for help to anyone. Bob and I would meet again in High
School where he had a loyal following of friends and admirers. His true
kindness and love touched everyone. His senior year Bob tried out for the
basketball team. His hustle and determination and great attitude showed me
again what he was made of. He always had a smile and positive things to say
about everyone.
When I saw him in November at the ECVHS football playoffs I went over and
gave him a huge hug. In hindsight, I think he was embarrassed at being the
focus of attention which he always shunned. God sent Bob to us as an example
of how he wanted us to live our lives on the earthly plane. He will always
be in my heart. Thank you Lord for letting Bob Murphy into our lives.
*****
Sent by Fr. Bud
Just completed celebrating Mass of the Dead for Bob Murphy. I believe he
lived a saintly life in the manner of Jesus , Saint Francis and Saint
Augustine, to name a few. He always radiated the compassion of Christ, the
love of God's gifts in nature and life, as did Saint Francis; and, through
his music added substance to Saint Augustine's instruction: He who sings,
prays twice. (God! Did I do a lot of praying out there.)
Sent by Barbara & Tim Conaty
I wanted to pass this on from our friend Fr. Bud who worked many Cursillos
before becoming a priest nine years ago. We have all been touched by Bob's
passing. We are saddened by the loss of Bob. His spirit will live on in all
those he touched. His faith and music will be in the hearts of all of us.
May the angels and saints welcome him into heaven with song.
Barbara and Tim Conaty
*****
Sent by Rick Ghio
I have included a portion of text from the book I am writing. This part of
the chapter is just one example of how Bob touched my life. When I worked
this past Cursillo I felt compelled to tell Bob how His devotion to Mary
provided me the impetus to begin my devotion to Mary. The title of this
chapter is "The Gift of His Mother."...
I spoke earlier on how Mary had helped me during the period of time after
Mom's death. I am but a novice when it comes to having great knowledge
about Mary's many virtues. Knowing that a bunch of Catholic men had a
strong devotion to Mary was a huge awareness for me. Prior to Cursillo, I
had all the basic information about Mary. I knew she was the Mother of our
Savior Jesus Christ. I knew she became pregnant with Jesus “through the
power of the Holy Spirit.” And I knew she gave birth to Jesus in a manger.
Beyond that, I knew very little.
The door opened for me to begin my exploration of the many virtues of Mary
at my Cursillo. We didn't't talk much about Mary at Cursillo. I'm not even
sure there was a statue of Mary. God, like he does many times, uses other
people to get our attention. At Cursillo, he was using an extremely
talented musician to get my attention. The lyrics were so touching and they
were sung by a fellow named Bob Murphy. With every song, Bob would pour out
his heart. God had blessed him with a powerful, pure, and uplifting voice.
Surely Bob had to have had a recording contract, I thought.
After a couple of days on my Cursillo retreat, I asked a friend who knew Bob
to tell me about him. My friend indicated Bob did indeed have a passion to
sing the praises of our Lord. My friend went on to say that Bob also had a
strong devotion to Mary. There it was! Right then and there, at that very
moment, I thought to myself, “I need to learn more about Mary!”
Because of Bob Murphy I too have a passion for the Blessed Virgin Mary who
among many things has been instrumental in helping me through many of life's
challenges.
May he rest in peace.
Rick Ghio
*****
Sent by Larry Ashbacher
My family and I were having dinner with Jim House this evening after Mass @
UCSD Catholic Community. (Jim and Bob Murphy had been roommates for the
past 7 years) We were remembering Bob Murphy through the years and suddenly
it occurred to me that in our midst was a truly holy person - a Saint in
many ways. If we work together (our Cursillo community) through the years
and gather the collective memory of Bob -it might be possible to gather
enough documentation and a few miracles to promote a cause for his
canonization.
Just a thought -
I know Bob is with the Lord!
Larry Ashbacher LarryAsh@aol.com
*****
Sent by Don Kojis
Bob Murphy's voice prints are all over the 161 acres of Whispering Winds
Catholic Camp. He shared his wonderful musical talents with us at the camp
in Julian, CA., at weekend retreats but especially on Cursillo Weekends.
Years ago, Bob said he would like to help raise money to continue the
building of Whispering Winds, so he put on a wonderful concert with his band
at the El Cajon Performing Arts Center. A sellout crowd cheered as they
performed and Whispering Winds received a nice check. Whispering Winds and I
personally will miss Bob's wonderful smiling face, fantastic personality and
love of the Lord and his fellow man.
Bob was a "Servant of the Lord" and whenever I hear the "Servant's Song," it
will bring a vision of Bob's smiling, singing, happy face to me.
Don Kojis
Co-Founder
Whispering Winds Catholic Camp
*****
Sent by Deacon Mitch Rennix
Our friend Bob Murphy is still very much with us. True, our Lord called his
body from this earth, but Bob's spirit remains in our lives. and it always
will. Will you ever see a green guitar, anywhere, and not think about Bob?
Will you ever hear any song about the sadness of abortion and not think
about Bob? Will a football season in San Diego ever pass without Bob's name
being mentioned? Will a Cursillo weekend ever happen without stories about
Bob being told?..not for a very long time. Will any Cursillo weekend ever
start quite the same without Bob singing "were you there when they crucified
my Lord"?
Our loss..Heavens gain. Bob changed our world, and not in a small or quiet
way, but he rocked our Christian thought process with his inspired music and
his inspired life. Do you remember the first time you heard him sing about
the Centurion Solider? ..or of course, "Mommy"? Were you the same after you
heard those songs? I certainly was not. They changed the way I think and act
because they went to the very core of who I was and they lit a fire inside
me. I am a better person because Bob was in my life, and yet, I'm just one
of many, many people, perhaps many thousands, who say that. His ministry was
his life, and his life was rich.
I am so sad for us who remain, yet filled with tears of Joy for the Journey
that is now Bob's. Like the Saints before him, he has become a model for all
of us to follow. I won't be surprised when I'm driving down some road and I
look at the green bumper sticker in front of me and it reads.."what would
Bob Do?"
The highest honor that we could ever bestow upon Bob, is to live our lives
in a virtuous manner..just as he taught us.
*****
Sent by Karen Ryan
As a fellow musician, I appreciated Bob's input and the music that he had
written whenever we played together eg on a "Back to the Mountain" weekend.
He took the time to copy music for me and review the tunes. He was a real
talent and genuinely nice man. I was
lucky to have known him.
-Karen Ryan
*****
Sent by Daniel Perwich
My family, which at the time was only my wife Rita and me, came to know Bob
Murphy in 1988. We met him through John Carniglia, who was very close to Bob
and his music ministry at that time. We were trying to adopt through
Catholic Charities and Bob and John were very supportive of us. We were on
Bob's prayer wheel, his list of people he prayed for regularly. Bob was
active in pro-life. He made himself available (like we know he did for so,
so many others throughout his life) to provide music, which at that time
featured his song “Mommy” which is still the most beautiful pro-life song we
have ever heard. Bob was not just about music, he lived and breathed his
faith in Jesus Christ in everything. He was a Priest disguised in blue
jeans. In every situation in community that Bob came into he brought our
Lord's sunshine and love. We never knew Bob in any other way. That was Bob
Murphy.
From the beginning until the end Bob has been a significant part of our
lives. He celebrated the birth and adoption of our two daughters Christina
and Ashley, 17 and 14 years ago. Our children have been blessed with knowing
Bob for all their lives. Our daughter Ashley still has a picture she drew of
Bob in December 2002 during a mass. Bob tirelessly provided the Christian
party with music and song and his love when we attended to John who suffered
a brain injury in 1997. John lived at that facility for many years, and we
would gather several times a year to visit with John. When Bob Murphy walked
in with his guitar and his shy smile, the party would get started! He knew
all John's favorite songs. That was Bob Murphy.
Bob had a birthday party at his house. I think it was his 40th. We gathered
around and said the Rosary together. It was a very beautiful experience. A
real Christian birthday party. That was his true love. That was Bob Murphy.
A long time after Bob's wife divorced him, we had a dinner to try to match
Bob up with a very nice and intelligent lady whose husband had divorced her
probable two years earlier. Rita and I thought it was interesting that her
last name was also Murphy. At the end of a long evening at our home, the
woman told me that she had never met anyone like Bob. In a very nice way,
the gist of her assessment was that even though Bob's wife had left him and
had re-married, in Bob's heart he was still married and that his heart would
not change. That was Bob Murphy.
To be honest, I/we did not have enough time with Bob. I wanted more. I haven
't seen Bob for several months, although I discovered that just last Sunday
Bob did a funeral in Coronado. He was called by someone he did not know and
was asked to provide his music at the funeral of the man's grandfather. Bob
was there. That was Bob Murphy.
Within the last two weeks a little voice in my head told me to call Bob and
see if he could get together. I wanted time just so we could play guitar and
hang out. I wanted some time with Bob, just me and him having fun playing
guitar, not work, just play. Like other mistakes I have made, I didn't't act
on that little voice and I can not say that I have a very recent memory of
good times with Bob. I am not sure what all the lessons are form this. But I
am sure that Bob is at peace, and at a level I can not understand, he is
probably hanging out and playing guitar in heaven, not working, just
playing. Our beloved Bob, a good and faithful servant has gone home.
Daniel, Rita, Christina and Ashley Perwich
*****
Sent by Tim O'Shea
It's a Glorious Day in Heaven now that Bob Murphy has been called Home . . .
And It's a Glorious day for Bob to walk with Jesus in Heaven, too . . .
Let us all rejoice and be glad that Bob and Jesus have this moment together
. . .
Murph made his environment a better place and all of us wanting to be a
little bit better in ours . . .
We will all miss Bob . . . allot . . . Celebrate him Home . . . .
*****
Sent by Carol Ann (Connolly) Robilotta
Growing up, Bob was a fixture in our household. He was one of my brother
Steve's best friends, but I just thought of him as another brother. I
remember making French toast for him every weekend. He was always so
appreciative. He actually was better than a brother, because he only said
nice things to his "little sister."
There wasn't a family event where he didn't sing (my wedding & children's
baptisms included).
I remember one time, his guitar was stolen out of the back of my sister's
car. So we all got together and threw a "Bring Back the Music" party where
friends donated to buy Bob a new guitar. He was SO GRATEFUL and overwhelmed
with the outpouring of love.
I know he's with God and probably playing music for my sister and parents
right now.
I'll miss him, but will keep his memory as a way to remind me how God wants
us to be on Earth.
DeColores, Bob.
Carol Ann (Connolly) Robilotta
*****
Sent by Anthony Brown
Dear Brothers & Sisters,
As shocking as it was to hear the news of Bob's death on Thursday, I wasn't
immediately saddened because I felt in my heart that God had called him home
and probably was saying to him, "Well done, my good and faithful servant."
I knew Bob not as a close friend would know him, but as a friend who shares
a faith-filled experience (Cursillo) and passion (music) for sharing that
faith. I admired Bob's ability and courage to make music that spoke of his
faith, and I suppose that's partly what has inspired me to share my faith in
similar fashion.
When I read John Sawaya' s notes about Bob's last day on Wednesday, I had a
profoundly different and tearful reaction in being reminded of the
Christ-like spirit that Bob radiated. I echo John's comments that "I can
only hope my last day on earth is similar to Bob Murphy's." Bob's
homecoming will leave an enormous void that all of us will feel for some
time to come.
Unfortunately I don't have any personal experiences with Bob to share, but I
will share with you my perspective of the Cursillo experiences that we all
shared together with Bob's voice and acoustic guitar on the mountain. I
remember that while he would play and sing... sometimes melodically and
sometimes speak-singing, but always from the heart... he would smile a
certain smile that was a profession of faith and confidence in Him to whom
and for whom he was REALLY singing.
Knowing how happy Bob was while professing his faith in song here on Earth,
I can only imagine how happy he is to have been brought home to sing eternal
praises to our God in heaven. I will remember Bob for his song and his
smile.
Peace,
+anthony
*****
Sent by Alex Sanchez
I first met Bob at a Mejagorie Peace Conference.
He was praying for babies.
When I met him he was 33.
Wasn't that how old Jesus was?
He was a strong, young man.
A man with conscience and conviction.
You really don't find many people like that.
But, isn't that the way Jesus was?
He was an artist.
He created things.
With his hands and his spirit.
Didn't Jesus do that too?
Bob helped me bury my father.
I saw things differently because of him.
He showed me how to love others.
Isn't that what Jesus did?
He left us so suddenly.
But not before he loved us.
Not until he showed us.
Not until he prayed with us.
Isn't that what Jesus did?
*****
Sent by John Sawaya
My dad, Jim Sawaya, serves mass every day at St. Joseph's Cathedral
downtown. He's has gotten to know Bob Murphy over the years as Bob is a
frequent visitor to the noon mass at St. Joes. Wednesday, the day before Bob
died, he showed up at noon mass and my dad gave him communion. My dad said
he saw Bob leaving after mass with one of the local homeless person's on his
way to buy the guy lunch. He said the homeless guy had this huge smile on
his face as Bob escorted him to the deli. Mass, Communion and helping the
homeless.... I can only hope my last day on earth is similar to Bob
Murphy's.
*****
John Sawaya
Cursillo Communications
cursillocommunications@arc-socal.com
Last Updated:
July 01, 2006
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